3:32 am
Sunday
Feb 6
the drivers in their plastic bubbles
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Cheeky Prof wrote about an encounter with one of those crooked parkers and I didn’t want to hijack her comments completely (which I think is more rude than a bad parking job) so I thought I’d post my complete thought here ![]()
I think this whole parking crookedly thing is just part of this complete utter bubble of self-involvement that everyone seems to have these days. Talking about really personal things on the cellphones in front of complete strangers in public, playing with the latest electronic gadget in line, and, yes, even being wrapped up in an ipod mental cocoon. I’m not saying these things are bad neccesarily - just, personal communication (aside from electronically at a distance) is at a low tide. A lot of that electronic barrier stuff is for self preservation. I know I use the ipod in public rather than risk overhearing some annoying conversation, or mean remark at places like the gym. And it’s kind of sad that I feel I run the risk of hearing that or that it would affect me such that I need to block it out. But I fully admit I have issues with the social phobia thing and seemingly throwaway comments can sometimes end up torturing me for years.
Anyway, I don’t think the crooked parking is usually an act of defiance or outright meanness - just, as the woman Cheeky dealt with showed, a complete lack of thought for anyone other than herself and her immediate world. Like stopping in the middle of the aisle to peruse the cereal aisle blissfully unaware that people need to get by. In a way, I’m kind of jealous of their ability to be so completely absorbed in their own worlds - not weighed down by concern for everyone else around them. Must be nice to really and truly be the center of your own universe. I know people who spend a fortune on various escapist hobbies and treatments and these folks get to do it for free!


I’ll not share all my thoughts on this to spare the all out comment-jacking - but this is a regular topic of conversation (or ranting) between my boyfriend and me… people are just unbelievably self-absorbed and unaware of their surroundings, and it pisses me off on a daily basis. (Though it’s entirely possible I’m just as guilty of such self-absorption.)
Cell phones are a whole other topic entirely that will set me off on a rant.
Noelle,
You are SO very right about all of this. And although my rant was about parking, like Mel, all of the issues you mentioned and the larger problem of increasingly rude behavior in our society are constant sore spots for me. Public cell phone use, drivers not allowing ppl to merge on to the highway during rush hour, ppl not holding doors for someone behind them or not saying ‘thank you’ when you hold the door for them, the grocery cart blocking the aisle thing–priceless–this has happened to me millions of times, ppl who gather in groups to chat in doorways, the tops of stairwells, etc., cashiers turning their backs to finish a personal class before ringing your items, etc. etc. etc. etc.
Bitching about it may not fix it but it still makes me feel better. So does knowing it’s not just me who is bothered.
They may just be from Michigan. Those people don’t know how to park. (I’m from michigan. I have trouble parking.)
A-HA! I am from Michigan and I do know how to park! So I don’t necessarily think it’s a Michigan thing.